Greg and I are in the middle of the process of deciding how we will adopt a child, God willing that we should. There are so many possibilities, it is mind boggling. Should we choose an embryo, a life on hold, and give it a chance to really live? How about a newborn baby, one we could love and influence for God from the very beginning? A two year old who has been suffering from the lack of stability and maybe even a lack of care? What about a child from a third world country, a child who may never have many opportunities for health care or to become the person God made him/her to be if left in the orphanage? Or a child from a communist country who might never know about God’s love if not adopted? We are praying for guidance and meeting with as many people as we can.
I’ve already talked about God as a father AND as a daddy (actually, my husband wrote about that, but you know what I mean), which are both pretty similar, but God also presents Himself as an adoptive father. God loves us as an adoptive father loves his adopted child. You might ask, how different can that be? Aren’t you taking this a little too far? I don’t think I am.
Even though most adoptive parents I’ve talked to tell me they love their adopted children the same as they love their biological children, there is a difference. The relationship is slightly different because the adopted child is, as I’m finding, often deliberately and many times painstakingly chosen. Some adoptive parents even call their adopted children “chosen children”. It’s not that I didn’t choose to have my other three, but so far, I can tell you that choosing a child to adopt has been a much more arduous process.
A girl I knew in high school had been adopted from India. She took great joy in a statement her parents told her as she was raised by them: “You may not have been born to us, but we chose you.” What’s the difference? It made all the difference to that girl. It implies a love that seeks out the beloved. It’s a deliberate, purposeful love.
Paul wrote in Ephesians 1:5,6: “He [God] predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, which He freely bestowed on us in the Beloved.” This verse shows it so clearly. It was the kind intention of His will that we become His children. He intended it, willed it, predestined it. We weren’t a surprise to Him, as might happen to an earthly father. He desired us and sought us out.
Thankfully, God’s decisions about choosing us are not as hard to come by as it has been for me and my husband as we seek out which child to adopt. God chose us before the foundation of the earth. The verses immediately preceding the ones I just quoted in Ephesians say, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him” (Eph. 1:3,4).
If you have accepted Jesus, you can rest today in the knowledge that God chose you to love, even though He knew all you would and wouldn’t be. You are His beloved chosen child, and He is your forever family.