Take two people who think about every side of every possibility to find the very best situation (especially when it comes to a large decision), who deliberate to the point where it becomes indecision, and then have those two people try to buy a house in a new state in the middle of a seller’s market at the end of the house buying season. Add in three young children one of those people is trying to homeschool and a challenging new job for the other person, and you get (at least in our case) confusion. We have been going back and forth about houses (mostly in unison, praise God) until at times it feels like torture.
What am I supposed to do in the midst of confusion? I think going to Scripture is a good place to start.
First of all, God is not a God of confusion but of peace (I Cor. 14:33), unless He’s throwing enemies into confusion (Ex. 23:27, Deut. 7:23, etc.) for our good. Some of the antonyms of confusion are clarity, peace, calmness, order, sense, composure, and organization. Is it possible to have peace, order, clarity, or any of these other words in the middle of a move where major decisions need to be made? It doesn’t always feel like it.
Some might say I will stop feeling confused and instead feel peace when I find the right house. Perhaps that is true at times, but I know that just feeling a sense of peace about something doesn’t necessarily show it’s the will of God. I felt peace about a certain house that seemed just right for us. It opened up last minute, just before we signed a contract on another house, and we put an offer on it the day it listed. The problem was that somebody else also liked the house and also put an offer on it that day. We were outbid by $400, and although we offered a higher price afterwards, our offer was not accepted. All of a sudden my peace was shattered. It doesn’t seem that peace was from God.
Isaiah 26:3 states, “The steadfast of mind You will keep in perfect peace, Because he trusts in You.” Therefore, peace comes from trusting God even if we don’t know what the outcome will be, even if we’re not absolutely sure the house we’re thinking about is just right. It looks like I’m going to need to go back to a very familiar verse once again: “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 4:6,7). I didn’t think I had anxiety about this, but I’m realizing I do have anxiety that we’ll make the wrong decision. After all, this is a very big purchase!
But if Greg and I have wisdom from God, we’ll be able to make a wise decision, and He does give us wisdom when we ask: “But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him” (James 1:5). Putting the last two verses together, I just need to ask Him for wisdom (which I have numerous times), thank Him for the help He’ll give us, and trust He’ll do it. How many times have I gone through this process? How long will it take before it comes naturally?
I hope my problem solving here can help you with a problem of your own. After all, I’ve found this solution can fit a whole host of problems we have in life. Here’s my blessing to you today: “Now may the Lord of peace Himself continually grant you peace in every circumstance. The Lord be with you all!” (II Thess. 3:16).